You are not for everyone!

Elvis Tapfumanei
6 min readSep 11, 2022
Photo by FLY:D on Unsplash

Sometimes, you must learn the hard way who is right for you. In high school, I thought everyone would love me and my personality because they were my friends. However, most of them ended up leaving me because they weren’t ready for the real me. It took years of self-reflection and reflection from others before I realized that not everyone can handle all of who we are as people. We all have different values, experiences, backgrounds, and interests. Those differences shouldn’t be reason enough for people to leave us behind or treat us poorly if we don’t fit into their mould for what a friend should look or act like. You don’t need 1000 people in your life but only 100 who truly care about you and want what’s best for you as well as themselves over anyone else even if it means being happy without them around.

I love the idea of being a good friend but sometimes I wonder if I’m not for everyone. Like, some people think it’s fun to go out drinking and party, but that’s not me at all. You may think it’s nice to be friendly and approachable, but that just makes people feel entitled to your time and attention. As hard as it is for some people to hear, many others just won’t like you or your personality no matter what you do. So why waste time trying when there are plenty more fish out there?

If you know your worth and are confident in who you are, then it will be easier for you to know that not everyone is for you.

Not everyone will love or even like you. You don’t have to be liked by everyone. We must learn how to say no so that we can avoid toxic relationships and people who don’t deserve our time and energy. We all have our own opinions about what friendship is and what it should look like. And while some people are willing to compromise their values to make a friend, others aren’t. You don’t have to be friends with everyone you meet or even like everyone you meet. There’s no denying that there will always be people who don’t think the same way we do or believe in the same things we do, and that’s okay. It’s important to remember that not everyone will like us, and it doesn’t necessarily mean anything about our value as human beings.

We all have our moments when we feel like we’re not good enough, or that our life isn’t going the way we’d like it to. But I also know that some of us get depressed because of how certain people make us feel. And I’m here to tell you that even if someone doesn’t want to be with you, it doesn’t mean they don’t value you as a person — they just might not be compatible with you in other ways.

Don’t ignore your own happiness for anyone.

Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for being happy. You must be happy, because if you’re not then what’s the point of anything? It’s common for people to feel guilty about being happy because they don’t want to hurt others or cause them any pain. But if you’re ignoring your happiness to keep other people happy, that’s not fair. You must be able to make yourself happy because if you don’t, no one else will be able to do it for you either. We often hear about being “for everyone,” but this is impossible. Your brand is for you, not for everyone. This does not mean that your brand should be limited in its appeal — it just means that we must be honest with ourselves about who our audience is and what we think they will find valuable. It’s okay if you’re not for everyone; you don’t need to please everyone with your work — and if you try to please everyone at once, chances are nobody will be happy!

You are not for everyone. And that’s okay!

There is no shame in being a phase, a trial, or an experiment. You are not meant to be impressive. You are intended to fill a need and then move on when the time comes. You are a temporary fix for someone else’s problems and challenges in life, but your role does not have to last forever — and it should not.

You will find those who need you, who can see the beauty beneath all of your flaws and mistakes. They will love you fiercely because they know how special you truly are. And this is why they deserve every bit of your heartbreak from losing them just as much as they deserve all of your joy when being with them.

You are not for everyone. You are for those who love you, accept you and want to be with or around you.

Put your focus on this if it is hard to do when people don’t get back to you in a way that feels important to them because they have their stuff going on. If it makes sense when applied appropriately, life is not a perfect world but we can always try our best at being better versions of ourselves each day. This is so others may benefit from what we have learned thus far along our journey through life’s experiences. This brings us full circle back to where we started — with ourselves!

Keep moving forward!

You are not alone.

There is an entire planet full of people who love you, whether they know it or not.

Sometimes we forget that we are loved because we don’t always feel it in our day-to-day lives. But when we look back over our history, many people have been there for us during the hard times and celebrated with us during the good ones. There are people that we have forgotten about because they were part of our lives. Such things feel like a lifetime ago (or they may still be around), but when you go back through memories, there’s always someone who was kind to you or helped you out when no one else would.

Be confident in who you are and in the people who love you for who you are. You are unique, and that is a good thing.

Not everyone will like everything about you, but your people will love you fiercely. They will support and help you grow as a person because they know how important it is to be true to yourself when growing up. There will be times when you doubt yourself, but your people will remind you of who you are. They will help guide you through these moments because they know that it’s important to remember who we are and what makes us unique. And that’s what makes us special. We are different, but we are also the same. We all have things that make us unique and special in our way, but it’s important to remember that those things don’t define us.

So, if you’re feeling like you may not be right for everyone — and that’s okay!

It’s important to remember that the people who do love us are the only ones who really matter. You are not for everyone. This can be hard to hear and accept, but it’s a reality that many of us have come to know. You need to stop trying to make yourself into something you aren’t, and instead embrace the fact that no matter how much work you put into changing yourself, there will always be someone who doesn’t like who they see when they look at you. That doesn’t mean they don’t like YOU as an individual — it just means that sometimes people don’t get along simply because their personalities clash or because they’re too different from one another in terms of interests or values or confidence levels etc.

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Elvis Tapfumanei

Your friendly neighbour who likes to talk about existential issues and lovely human stories.